Wednesday, 31 March 2010

Words of Comfort Review

For everytime you've wished for
the right words to say...

About the book:

Through great personal loss, authors Cecil Murphey and Liz Allison have gained insight to share with others who are going through uncertainty, depression, and loneliness after losing a loved one. They also offer advice for those comforting someone who is grieving.

Among comforting paintings by artist Michal Sparks, brief stories, personal experiences, and prayers offer a meaningful path toward healing for readers when they:
feel alone and lost in their grief and want to reconnect with others and to life
seek to make sense of their loss alongside their sense of faith, purpose, and God
want to honor their loved one without clinging to the past in unhealthy ways
Readers are given gentle permission to grapple with doubt, seek peace, and reflect on loss in their own way without judgment and with understanding and hope. A perfect gift for a loved one dealing with loss and grief.

About the Authors:

Liz Allison was married to NASCAR driver Davey Allison until his tragic death in 1993. Widowed at 28 with two young children to raise, Liz faced the long journey of pain, loss, and grief with great faith. Committed to encouraging others, she returned to her work in TV reporting, has published eight books, and hosts a weekly radio show. Please visit

Cecil Murphey is an international speaker and bestselling author who has written more than 100 books, including New York Times bestseller 90 Minutes in Heaven (with Don Piper). No stranger himself to loss and grief, Cecil has served as a pastor and hospital chaplain for many years, and through his ministry and books he has brought hope and encouragement to countless people around the world.
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Why We Write About Loss

On the morning of July 12, 1992, my husband, Davey, left home like any other morning—he kissed my forehead and hugged our kids.That afternoon I answered a knock at the door, sensing something wasn’t quite right. When I glimpsed the faces of Davey’s two best friends—they didn't have to speak—the looks on their faces said it all.

That day, after lunch with his race team, Davey had hopped into his helicopter and taken an unplanned trip to the nearby Talladega Superspeedway to watch a buddy practice. Attempting to land in the infield, he had lost control of his helicopter and crashed. Although paramedics airlifted Davey to a Birmingham hospital, sixteen hours later he was pronounced dead.

Immediately following Davey’s death, I had to work through my grief enough to plan his funeral and make hundreds of small-but-significant decisions, all while maintaining the time and energy to care for our two young children, ages one and three. Well-wishing friends hovered around me and frequently asked, “What can I do for you?

Most of the time, I could only respond with a blank stare. Looking back, my friends could have done many things for me, but they didn’t know what to do, and I didn’t know what to tell them.

I hope the insights I have gained during the aftermath of Davey’s death will help you as you struggle with your own grief.



Two weeks after my father suffered a ministroke, a massive stroke took his life. On the day of his funeral, my older brother, Ray, died of cancer. Over the next eighteen months, I lost two brothers-in-law and my mother.

On the Sunday after Dad’s and Ray’s funerals, a parishioner rushed up to me, hugged me, and said, “Pastor, I heard about the deaths. Were they saved?”

I honestly don’t remember what I answered, but I wanted to shout, “Does it matter right now? I hurt. I’m so filled with pain that I’m not sure I can handle the worship service today!”

In 2007, our house burned down. Our son-in-law, Alan, died in the fire. The next day, a neighbor pulled up in front of our burned house, got out of his car, and started to look around. “Where did he die?” he asked.

Through the years, I’ve met many like those two people. Maybe they didn’t know what to say. Perhaps they were so focused on what they cared about that they were unaware of my pain. Instead of helping me, those comments made me feel even worse. What I needed was compassion. I didn’t get that from either of them, but I can offer it to you.

That’s why we’ve written this book.



This book spoke Volumes to me personally! Not only in dealing with the grief of losing my Daddy in December but also in dealing with the loss of our Ministry, Church, and Friendships. I say this so much but everytime it is soo true! The Lord brings things into my life at JUST THE RIGHT MOMENT! This book made me realize how much I have held in the grief. Yes, when I cry at the silliest thing..... like having to tell our Orthodontist we won't be using them for my Sons braces because we won a certificate worth $1000 towards his braces with another Orthodontist and she was so happy for us and said it would all be ok. Yep ~ I cried. Why? I have no idea. But that was just one of the many ephiphanies I had in reading this book. I am learning to give myself permission to grieve and not expect myself to move forward at the rate others think I should but to take it one day at a time. I know grieving is a season and joy will return. I love how this book is so simple yet so very powerful. Recognizing when Christ is comforting you and cherishing those moments has truly been my greatest lesson from this book!

I will keep this book and refer to it often because there is always someone who is grieving and as the Lord tells us in HIS Word....rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn. Someday my grieving will be over but this book will remind me and I pray that I can bless someone with compassion and understanding knowing how they might be feeling!

Kathy Carlton Willis Communications is offering a Giveaway on April 9th. I will be able to submit one name from someone who comments on this post and is also a follower of my blog and you will be entered into the Grandprize giveaway!! details of the giveaway are just below :)
Grand Prize Giveaway includes:

Words of Comfort for Times of Loss
Heaven Is Real
Gift Edition, 90 Minutes in Heaven
Potato soup
Oyster crackers
Dove silky smooth milk chocolate
Dove silky smooth dark chocolate
Ultra-plush spa socks
Large gel eye mask

This special grandprize giveaway is designed especially for someone going through a difficult time. The winner can keep or pass along to someone who could use the pick-me-up.

For other great tips on helping those who might be grieving ~ this is a wonderful article from the authors, go here

Thankyou Kathy Carlton Willis Communications for this complimentary book! I will cherish it!


Denise said...

Sweetie, this sounds like a great helpful book for those hurting. What a wonderful giveaway, love you bunches.

Jennifer said...

Wow... great review Loren! This sounds like an amazing book. I often struggle with the 'right' thing to say when I want to help people who are hurting. I feel the compassion, but don't have the words. I didn't even know such a book existed. I'm sure everyone could learn valuable lessons from it! Thank you so much for sharing this!!

Heart2Heart said...

Well you know I would love to be entered in this beautiful giveaway. I can only imagine Loren, how much this book did for you during this time of losing your incredible father! I know how much he meant to you and your family but I rejoice in knowing that we will all see them again someday and it will feel like only moments have passed since we had last spent time with them.

Until that time we know your dad is fishing the with ultimate fisherman and doing all the things he truly loved the best while waiting for the best reunion to come.

I love you sweetheart and can't wait to finally meet you and hug you someday. You are always in my heart and prayers. By the way, I am also a follower too in more ways than one!

Hope you stop by as I am hosting weekly giveaways now on my blog.

Love and Hugs ~ Kat

Cotton Blossom said...

Beautiful review. I am sorry with you for your losses.

Clif said...

Dear Sweet Loren, this looks like a great book and I'm sure you did a fantastic job reviewing it. However, it's just too long for me to read. Hey, I'm 75. Time is precious and I don't want to spend too much in one place. Keep reading and reviewing.

Charlotte said...

This really sounds like a good book. I'm just 73. I had time to read it. LOL

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